The thing that gets me about this isn’t that it’s a skinny girl who says this around her larger friend. I get that. I get that self-esteem issues do not go away just because you’re conventionally attractive. There are a lot of problems regardless of size, many involving eating disorders. What gets me about this is that while I understand it’s usually someone expressing how they view themselves, my friends and relatives who say this don’t realize what a negative impact it has on the self esteem of the people around them. When my much thinner sister complains that she’s fat, I look at her and can’t help but think, “What does she think I look like if her mostly in shape body is fat?” I am literally 40 or fifty pounds heavier than her and not much taller, how gross must I be to her? I have told my sister this and she brushes it off. I get that people are harder on themselves than others, I really do. But it hurts when people say these things about themselves not only because they’re putting down someone I care about, but because they’re putting down someone I consider better than myself. When they put down themselves and I consider them better than me, in my mind this translates to me being even lower than I saw myself before. This is not a healthy way of thinking, but low self esteem overall is NOT healthy. Skinny girls should not be punished for larger girls feelings being hurt. That is the absolute truth. But it still hurts when my beautiful 115lb sister says to me that she’s a fatty who needs to exercise. She may be mostly joking about being fat, but the message she’s sending to me is that as her overweight little sister, I need to get my butt moving if I ever want to like myself.